#486 – Battling Shame and Understanding Triggers with Tory Eletto

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We have Tory Eletto in the house (again) and we are so excited to share this episode with our listeners and viewers (full video episode on our YouTube channel). For those who don’t know, Tory Eletto is a licensed marriage and family counselor who works with individuals, couples, and families. She is also the founder and director of E-motion Psychotherapy.

This episode is not only good for couples but also perfect for single folks who want to start doing the inner work. This episode is also perfect for anyone who simply wants to fill their cup and be the next level version of themselves. We hope you enjoy and learn from this episode because we sure did.

Where to find Tory:
IG: @nytherapist
Her programs: https://linktr.ee/nytherapist
Website: https://www.emotionpsychotherapy.com/

Book recommendations:
Getting the Love You Want by Harville Hendrix
Attachment Theory

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Alan: https://www.linkedin.com/in/alanlazarosllc/




Show notes:
[0:00] Intro
[0:47] Guest intro
[1:23] Who is Tory and what does she do?
[2:18] On relationship systems — why most people don’t plan out their relationships
[3:54] On recognizing triggers and what to do with it
[5:38] What are the examples of triggers in intimate relationships?
[9:23] How do you measure your progress?
[11:13] For single folks, what can they do to prepare themselves?
[12:50] How do people identify if they get stuck in shame? And what to do to get out of it?
[17:25] On not feeling safe to express their truth
[19:40] Your partner is a reflection of you — is that a healthy way to view it?
[24:41] On growing apart because of values in conflict
[25:29] Do you want to level up in life, love, and wealth? Join us
[29:44] How do you know what’s worth working for?
[31:42] Who is the perfect person for someone else?
[34:20] What can someone do to encourage their partners to grow alongside you?
[38:32] Tory’s last statement to the world
[40:07] More about Tory Eletto
[41:12] Other than hiring someone, how can people get a relationship mentor?
[42:16] Outro

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